Relationship Problems! Top 5 Signs Of Emotionally-abusive Lovers

When we hear the word abuse in relationships, what comes to
mind is physical assault and domestic violence.

It is not hard to understand why this happens – physical
abuse is the most visible form and it seems to be all around
us, in reality and in the news.

But physical abuse is not the only form of abuse and
according to Inemesit Udodiong, it is not even the worst.

On the last episode of Love, Sex and Everything else, the
presenter says with physical abuse you can “see the signs.
You can say, ‘hey, look, I have been abused, I have been
violated, I’ve been assaulted.’

But with emotional abuse, your brain is messed up, and half
the time you are left wondering maybe you are even the
problem [when in truth, you should never feel that way
because you’re the one being abused]”
So, what are the signs you’ll see in an emotionally-abusive
partner, or one who has such tendencies?

1. They try to isolate you

“There is nothing wrong with a partner trying to have you
themselves,” the presenter says.

If, however, that partner freaks out everytime you try to hang
out with friends and colleagues, or becomes uncomfortable
when you make efforts to stay in close quarters with your
family members, then that might be a sign that they will prey
on your emotions.

People need other people as support systems, and abusive
people know this. So they detach you totally from these
people till they are all you have, and that is when the abuse
will begin – when you have no one to run to, no option but to
stick right there with them.

2. Overly critical

If you are with someone who constantly sees no good in what
you do, whom you can’t please or do right by, Inem says that
is one of the signs you’ll need in identifying that such person
is an emotionally-abusive partner.

“They are constantly criticizing you,” she says. “What that
does,” she further says, “is that it messes with your self-
esteem and before you know it you are feeling like ‘Ok, maybe
there’s something wrong with me’”

3. Too domineering and jealous

One other way of recognizing an emotionally-abusive partner
is that they are unnecessarily possessive and try to control
everything about you.

Being in a relationship should never totally rid you of your
freedom, and should not erode all your sense of self.
There is nothing wrong with a little jealousy, and partners
cannot be blamed for feeling a little stressed at the prospect
of losing their other halves.
But when jealousy is exhibited in the extreme, it could be a
form of emotional abuse.

4. Emotionally unstable

When you see someone who has regular violent outbursts and
terrible mood swings, that should serve as the warning you
need to stay away from them.

Being with someone who goes swiftly from 0-100 will always
leave you in a limbo. You do not know what to expect from
them. You do not know what will trigger their outbursts and
you’ll be left walking on eggshells half of the time.

This is a form of emotional abuse in the sense that you are
never sure of what to feel around such person. That, surely, is
not how one is supposed to feel around anyone they are in
love with.

5. Always blaming you

Partners who never take responsibility for what they do are in
this category too.

By never accepting the blame, they make you feel like they
can never do wrong, and with time you start finding a way to
blame yourself for every wrong thing that happens even when
you are obviously not.

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