From a female blog reader:
Hi please post anonymously. Am a lady in
her late 20’s and married for 5years with an
adorable daughter and if there’s anything
life has taught me so far is the fact that
experience is indeed a great teacher.
Well my case is slightly different from her’s
though but with same foundation
(pornography and masturbation). In my
case, my husband ‘cums’ and all but is a
chronic masturbator and a porn addict.
There’s ABSOLUTELY NOTHING I haven’t
done to help him. And the irony is that he
opened up and confessed to me 2months
after our wedding. Now a lot of your
followers might say I knew before getting
married but God is my witness I had no
idea at all (it became a long distance
relationship almost immediately after he
asked me out).
I’ve prayed, fasted, talked, seeked help on
his behalf and had sex with him countless
times daily just so he doesn’t do it, and yes
I am adventurous and kind of wild in bed so
I don’t think satisfaction is his problem.
Funny thing is that whenever he’s caught
(which is almost every time, he becomes
sober and kneels down, cries and begs for
forgiveness but would still go back almost
immediately (if not immediately sef).
Mind you he has a full time job as a pilot
with a multi-national company (so boredom
isn’t his problem either), he plays sport (as
his hobby) and is a sportsperson but
whenever he’s in the mood, he goes to the
toilet and claims he’s pooping/bathing and
does his thing.
Well I simply got tired and cut off all
privileges (sex-wise, just the basics and no
more different positions if am not up for it)
and just so she knows how far I’ve gone to
help him, I had to throw away the keys of
my bedroom and toilet but nne NONE
Over the years, I’ve come to a conclusion
that I cannot help him (even though he
admits to needing help). I am tired biko.
I’ve learnt to channel all my energy to my
daughter, business and personal
development. I cannot come and die of HBP
all in the name of trying to HELP him. So
my sister do not listen to all those saying u
can help him because in reality, u can’t do
jack. Sorry for my long write up (I wish
someone had tried to reach out to me
before I got married, just maybe it would
have influenced me